All of us get disappointed at some point. We get disappointed with ourselves, or our ability to accomplish, our school or instructor, our hobby or interest. We set goalposts, and feel like we never quite reach them.
This is especially true for those who practice a martial art. We may obtain a belt or rank, but we still feel we are not “there” yet. Why did Jane get to that stage faster than I did? Why does Joe handle this particular aspect better than me? When will it happen for me? These questions are normal, especially when we set specific marks and compare ourselves with others. They are normal questions, normal disappointments, but they are not healthy nor realistic.
It never happens. There is no magic spell to learn which will suddenly make you Super Saiyan. We should not set goalposts and expectations. Instead, set your sights on the horizon. The horizon is always ahead of you, impossible to reach – but it is always there – a target forward, onward. Your journey in the martial arts is one of self-exploration and self-expansion. As long as you train, you grow. The moment you feel you have reached a goalpost, you stop training and stop growing. If you set your sight on the horizon, you keep going. Small, semi-magical moments are picked up along the journey. They may seem insignificant at the time because they logically connect to the information you had previously acquired. It has not happened for you, because it never really happens – it is always happening.
It’s Wing Chun – Relax.